1. Confidentiality: The purpose of the mediation is to offer a safe place to communicate concerns so that genuine reconciliation can take place. Items shared in the mediation process need to be kept confidential and cannot be used against the person outside of the mediation process.
2. Honest, open, and respectful communication – Ephesians 4:15,25-32 contains excellent guidelines for communication.
3. No interrupting others
4. Take notes – rather than interrupt, please take notes to remind you what you want to clarify. Meanwhile, spend your time listening, not creating a rebuttal.
5. Respect conciliator interruptions – the conciliator may need to interrupt in order to keep the process going. It is not intended to be rude, but rather to be a loving gesture to either respect time, keep the environment conducive to conciliation, or to clarify information.
6. No assuming motives – be willing to give the other party the benefit of the doubt and to allow the party to explain their own motives.
7. Address new offenses quickly – if sinful behavior takes place in the process, we will expect to address that and apply biblical remedy during the process.
8. Breaks will be called as needed – breaks can be either for rest or for individual coaching. If a break is called for coaching, a report will be given as to what was the result of that coaching.