You are pretty sure you know why she treated you that way. Or do you? Assuming the motives and interests of others is a great way to fan the flames in a conflict. Such bias tends to impact your words, attitudes and actions. But what if you spent more time really trying to understand the potential interests this person has? Try giving her the benefit of the doubt and look for wholesome or at least neutral motives. Try to understand her interests:
Let each of you look out not only for his own interests, but also for the interests of others.
Seeking to understand another person allows you to approach her with the spirit of gentleness avoiding the temptation to be self-righteous:
Brethren, if a man is overtaken in any trespass, you who are spiritual restore such a one in a spirit of gentleness, considering yourself lest you also be tempted.
The next time you are in a conflict, don’t jump to conclusions employ the U of the Peacemaker PAUSE principle – Understand the other party’s interests.
To learn more about the Peacemaker PAUSE principle visit the Peacemaker Ministries website click here
To read about the P in Pause click here